“The 10 Types of Toxic People That Mentally Strong People Try to Avoid”
What up, World?! This Trey Branson…A few days ago my home girl Kita pulled my coat to this article, and as we go into the New Year we all could use some advice…Here it go!
Many times we may not realize it but as time goes on we notice that people who surround us affect us in many more ways than other things in our settings. I’ve always said and my people can back me up on this, those people who we surround ourselves with will influence us in such a way that only the best of us would be seen. Then we have those that no matter what we say or do, they are just the total opposite and will try to drain us along.
Do you have a friend or someone you associate with that no matter how much you love them you just have to keep them away? Not because you don’t like them, but just the simple fact that their energy is not on the same level as yours? How about that one person that no matter how much you try to push them to do something they just won’t do it? The one that likes to talk a lot about doing something but never does? The one that has dreams but has not accomplished one? How about the one who always has something to say about somebody? Yes, I can sense you all nodding your head in a positive way. I must say you are mentally strong.
We as mentally strong individuals understand the significance and control that we human beings have on one another. Paul stated “the mentally strong aren’t flawless and aren’t impervious to all. With enough damage coming from enough sides, even the strongest will fall. The trick is plan ahead and avoid those that make up the worst of the worst.”
He could not have said it better. The following are the 10 types of people we are to avoid:
1. The Show-off
I know we all know somebody who is always trying to make themselves look good in front of the crowd. Perhaps it’s the girl always wearing a brand new outfit and new pairs of shoes every time you see her (but don’t have money to pay her rent). Or maybe your boy who always has the last pair of Jordan’s (but don’t have money to buy a round of drinks). Or the one that waits for tax season and show he is a true “Baller”. Now when people do this they are just trying to what make you envious of them? or prove to you that they are better than you? or are they trying to make themselves feel good at someone else’s expense? It’s just a waste of time. Unfortunately, as they are striving to prove how much better they are, they are just showing how little their worth is. Don’t waste your time giving in.
2. The Unintelligent
Here Paul and I see eye to eye. Now this person is not the “dumb” one that can’t be helped; this is more like the person who continually makes the worst decisions and learns nothing from them. On top of that they are the ones who are completely intolerant of others opinions and behaviors. Yes! I am talking about the self-righteous ones, the ones who just think their way is always the right way and what you said is just wrong. Can you see how dumb their ego makes them look?
3. The Leeches
Now this one is a special one. I know and from experience I can tell you we have all have had that one friend who was “ALWAYS BROKE”. Of course when our friend is going through a difficult time we always give that lending hand. But then it get to the point that you’re just like, are you serious? (Kevin Harts voice) This is one of the toxic people who do not try to make an effort in bettering his/ her economic situation, either by getting a job, collecting unemployment, washing windows, taking out someone’s garbage etc. they are just not making that effort. You’ll see that every time you are together they are still in that same position. Now don’t get me wrong people, sometimes it’s not only the person who does not have a good economic position, you also have those “friends” that know where you stand economically and as a group when the check comes they look the other way.
4. The Lazy
Now being lazy is pathological. Laziness is such a contagious disease that spreads just like SARS. “Lazy people make other people lazy”. The more you hang out with these kind of people you will become motionless, immobile, cripple for the lack of a better word. The mentally strong are not impervious. Meaning that they are not water-proof, resistant, invulnerable remember that we are human beings and we have mysterious ways of influencing one another. If you see yourself hanging out with lazy people very often you will soon start to realize that you level of productivity and your social life is going down the drain. STAY AWAY!!
5. Anyone who lives by Drake’s motto: “Yolo”
Now those of you who personally know me know that I always over analyze things and give you reason why we should or shouldn’t them. As for my best friend she always tells me “mi hija la vida es una sola. Tu la tienes que gozar”. Simple translation: “You only live once.” I know we may have at some point in our life #YOLO#GETWASTED#GETHIGH on IG or FB. That was probably a momentum kind of thing. I might be guilty of that. But my philosophy behind “Yolo” is to do things that will make you soar, taking you to your cloud 9 (I’m not talking about getting high) Im talking about feeling the max when you achieve one of your goals. Do something with purpose. Yes, you only live once and with that said you know you only have one chance in life so don’t go do something stupid and mess it up!
6. The Big Talkers
“El perro que ladra no muerde.” Translation: “Dogs that bark don’t bite.” These are the ones that just spend the whole entire time yapping their mouths about what they are going to do or want to do and spend little time to make it happen. The mentally strong don’t bother in telling you what they do. Their work and success speaks for itself. The barking dogs on the other hand will just continue to bark because he is not going to leap and bite.
7. The constantly Depressed
I know we all go through hormonal changes yes guys so do you. t want to sound like non sympathetic/empathetic person. But hello, most of the things this person is going through is mostly if not all of their fault. They put themselves in this situation. Perhaps this person is related to the unintelligent as they do not learn from their mistakes. Honestly, you nor I need that kind of negativity in our lives.
8. Those who stay within their comfort zones
My comfort zone is determined when I start to feel that adrenaline rush, that excitement that you know you can’t stop. Like a child who has just eaten a whole bowl of candy and can’t sit still. If you enjoy living an adventurous life, those who don’t like to try anything new we must avoid (I’m not talking about you GA). All of the people we come across in life are partners on our journey. They will ride along even if it’s for a sec. But then there are the ones that just keep on steering up in your direction. Like Paul said, “if you hope to leave your comfort zone regularly, then don’t hang out with those who aren’t willing to leave theirs. Their chain isn’t simply enough to go for the ride.”
9. The non-dreamers
Where is your ambition? People who don’t dream technically don’t live. How can you go throughout life without considering that there is possibility for growth and change? How can you not believe things will get better? This is part of being human. Those people who don’t dream won’ allow you to dream and will do their best to prove to you that you dream is nothing but just dreams.
10. Non-believers
I agree 100% with saying that these are far worse than the non-dreamers. This is the person that would dream but their dream would only be a dream. They don’t believe their dream can become real. These are the ones that just go around their entire life moping around because they don’t think of themselves valuable enough to make things happen. These are the ones that are always there but not really there. Like their presence doesn’t really affect the word. Basically the so-called losers, they just go with the flow and never try to get ahead at anything. These are not the kind of people you go to for support. If they don’t believe in themselves they sure as hell won’t believe in you.
Hudson P (2014, January 22)”The 10 types of toxic people that mentally strong people try to avoid”, Elite Daily retrieved on January 29, 2014
